The plans are shaping up. We have rented a space to hold the wedding: the Unitarian Universalist Congregation in California that we belonged to before I became a minister. We have a wonderful officiate that has know us for 26 years. Our rings have been ordered. We’ve got a idea for a band, one of our daughter’s friends. Some of the invitations are out via Evite. Who has the mailing addresses of their friends and family anymore? Even email addresses tend to be out of date. We sent facebook messages to get email addresses.
Not as crazy as being legally married for one month and in the midst of planning a wedding, both after more than 38 years of being in a committed relationship.
We also set up a fundraising site so that donations can be made to Equality Utah in our name. We’d really like our marriage to be legal here too.
If you feel so moved, you can donate here. http://www.gofundme.com/3wiluw
Driving from Utah, a state that says no never no-way, we talked about getting married. Driving through Nevada, a state which is thinking about saying maybe, we decided. It has only been 38 and a half years since we began our relationship. Three different houses and three kids later we hope to be legally married this week in California – a state that now says yes. We will have a religious wedding ceremony on our 39th anniversary, also in California. The kids are all here, and it is my home state, although I will continue to live and work in Utah. We will ask our wedding guests to make a donation to Equality Utah instead of buying gifts. We really don’t need any more toasters or blenders at this point. Maybe we can help Equality Utah help change things for those who come after us, who could use some wedding gifts on a special day, a day when the only thing that will matter is the love and commitment that is shared.